Squirting: The Truth, The Myths & How to Make It Happen
Ah, squirting—the ultimate mix of curiosity, excitement, and WTF actually is it? Maybe you’ve experienced it, maybe you’ve tried and wondered if it’s even real, or maybe you’ve had it hyped up so much that it feels like a pressure-filled performance rather than pleasure.
So let’s break it down. What is squirting? Can everyone do it? And how do you get there without making it a goal-oriented stress fest?
First, What Is Squirting?
Squirting is the release of fluid from the paraurethral glands (a.k.a. Skene’s glands) during arousal or orgasm. It’s not urine (though it can contain traces of it—let’s not shame our anatomy here). The fluid is usually clear or slightly milky and doesn’t have the same composition as pee. Honestly, I personally think the “is it pee or not” conversation is so boring… AND…
Science is still catching up to what ancient pleasure practices have known for centuries—squirting isn’t a “party trick”; it’s a real physiological response to deep pleasure and release.
The Biggest Myths About Squirting
“Only some people can do it.”
Nope. There is substantial evidence that shows that everyone with a vulva has the anatomy to squirt—it’s more about stimulation, relaxation, and technique. Some people naturally squirt with ease, while others need a little more exploration (if they are curious and want to explore it).
“It’s the ultimate orgasm.”
Squirting ≠ orgasm. You can squirt without climaxing and orgasm without squirting. They can happen together, but they’re not the same thing.
“It means you’ve unlocked peak pleasure.”
Squirting is amazing, but it’s not a requirement for pleasure. If you’re treating it like a finish line, you’re missing the point. The real flex? Being fully in your pleasure, no matter what your body does.
How to Make Squirting Happen (Without the Pressure)
G-Region Stimulation is Key
The G-Region (more accurately, the urethral sponge) is a spongy area on the anterior (front wall) of the vagina. Stimulating this area with firm, rhythmic pressure (think: “come here” motion, side-to-side or even pulsing) can trigger squirting.Relax & Release Tension
Squirting happens when you let go—physically and mentally. If you’re tensing up, holding back, or worrying about the mess, your body won’t fully surrender to the sensation.Go Deep with Arousal
Squirting is more likely when you’re highly aroused. Take your time with foreplay, breathwork, and deep pleasure-building before jumping into stimulation. (Note that it’s best if you go into G-Region stimulation once you’ve already stimulated your body and already feeling high arousal.)Experiment with Rhythm & Pressure
Some people squirt from slow, deep pressure, others from fast, intense stimulation. Try different speeds and motions to see what feels best for you.Let It Happen (Even If It Feels Like You Have to Pee)
That “I need to pee” sensation? That’s your body getting close. Instead of stopping, if you feel comfortable', breathe through it and see what happens.Try this in the bathtub if that makes you feel more comfortable. Or you can put a towel or blanket under you so you can mentally let go of the idea of “creating a mess”.
Remember: Your Pleasure, Your Rules
Squirting can be hot, messy, exciting, AND not the measure of whether you’re “good” at sex. If it happens, amazing. If not, you’re still having
mind-blowing pleasure. The goal is exploration, not expectation.
