How to Make Cowgirl Feel Amazing for You (Not Just Them)
Let’s talk about riding. You know, that moment when you take control, set the pace, and watch your partner melt under you. But if being on top has ever made you feel awkward, tired, or just meh, you’re not alone.
Cowgirl and Reverse Cowgirl can be some of the most empowering positions—but only if you know how to work them to your advantage. Note that I personally think Reserve Cowgirl is super overrated but alas this is a discussion for another time.
Let’s get into it.
Cowgirl: Owning the Ride
Cowgirl (aka you straddling your partner, facing them) gives you full control over depth, rhythm, and speed. It’s also prime G-spot stimulation territory. But let’s be real—sometimes it feels like leg day gone wrong. So, how do you make it effortless and hot?
Tips for Effortless Riding:
It’s All in the Hips. Instead of bouncing up and down (which, let’s be honest, gets exhausting fast), try a slower grinding motion. Forward and back, side to side—whatever feels best for you.
Use Their Body for Support. Hands on their chest? Check. Resting against their thighs? Even better. This helps with balance and keeps you from burning out in 30 seconds.
Angle Matters. Leaning forward brings you closer for deep eye contact (and makes clitoral stimulation easier). Leaning back? Hellooo, intense G-spot pressure.
Let Them Do Some Work. Just because you’re on top doesn’t mean you have to do everything. Have your partner thrust from below or hold your hips to help with movement.
Breathe Into It. Deep, intentional breathing helps you stay relaxed, connected, and increases sensation. Try inhaling deeply as you move and exhaling as you grind—it enhances pleasure and keeps your stamina up.
Reverse Cowgirl: The Power Move
Feeling a little more dominant? Reverse Cowgirl (you on top, facing away from your partner) is not just a visual treat—it also offers unique angles for stimulation.
How to Make Reverse Cowgirl Work for You:
Posture is Everything. Avoid leaning too far back (unless you want a core workout). A slight forward tilt keeps things smooth and prevents awkward wobbles.
Hand Placement = Control. Place your hands on their legs or the bed for better balance and easier movement.
Slow it Down. The best way to keep it feeling amazing? Smooth, controlled movements instead of wild bouncing.
Make It a Tease. Try slowing down, squeezing around them, or shifting your hips just enough to make them beg for more. You’re in control—own it.
Sync Your Breath. Taking slow, deep breaths not only helps with endurance but also makes your movements more fluid and intentional. Try matching your breath to your pace for a deeper connection.
The Secret to Feeling Confident on Top
Here’s the truth: confidence in these positions isn’t just about technique—it’s about mindset. If you feel awkward, they’re going to feel it too. So, instead of overthinking how you look, focus on how it feels.
A few confidence-boosting tricks:
Breathe & Connect. Let go of the pressure to perform and focus on sensation. Deep breaths calm your nervous system and help you drop into the moment.
Use Your Hands. Run them over your body, their body—wherever feels good.
Talk Dirty (or Just Moan). A little vocal reassurance that you’re loving it? Instant turn-on.
Own Your Pleasure. The more you enjoy it, the hotter it is for both of you.
Final Thoughts: Make It Yours
The real key to mastering Cowgirl and Reverse Cowgirl? Do what feels good for you. Experiment with angles, movement, and tempo until you find your groove. And above all, have fun with it. Because when you feel amazing, they will too.
Now go on, take the reins. 😏
