How to connect with your partner before sex

Don’t get me wrong, quickies can be great. But have you ever taken intentional time to really connect with your partner, to the point where you can feel that sexual energetic charge between you two even without touching each other. 

Here are some tips to get you started…

Step 1: Set up your space 

Intentionally creating space to set the mood can really shift and bring the erotic energy online, building anticipation for what’s to come. So light some candles, turn on some music, and slip into something that feels good on your skin. The idea here is to set up your space to engage all your 5 senses. 

Step 2: Come back to your body

Before connecting with your partner, find a moment to connect with yourself. Take 10 deep belly breaths and tune into body, feeling your heartbeat. Find stillness and presence so youcan fully show up for your partner. 

Step 3: Eye gaze and YabYum 

Sit comfortably, cross-legged, facing your partner. Each of you places your right hand on your partner’s heart and your left hand on top of your partner’s right hand. Now gaze into your partners eyes, whilst breathing together. This practice not only syncs both your heartbeats, but it also creates a sacred space and cultivates presences. 

Step 4: Share words of appreciation 

After you’ve eye gazed for a while, you can share 3 words of appreciation for one another. The energy of appreciation is enriching to your body, heart, mind and spirit. Some prompts to get you started: 

• I am so thankful for ….

• I love it when you ….

• When you …., it makes me feel so ….

• One of my favorite things about you is …. 

When we take time to be present and not rush through an experience, we communicate and wire into ourselves the notion that our pleasure and connection is important and is a priority. 

So make some time and cultivate intention next time you want to get it on.